The Magic of "Sorry"

Steve Wiens is the one to finally say outloud what any parent of young children has been thinking for a while. The entire article is great, but this is my favorite bit:

Maybe it’s time to embrace being the kind of parent who says sorry when you yell. Who models what it’s like to take time for yourself. Who asks God to help you to be a better version of the person that you actually are, not for more strength to be an ideal parent.

I love being a parent who says "sorry". It's a magical word, when there is real feeling behind it. That's the number one thing I'm trying to impart to Deuce right now. He's rambunctious. And impatient. And impetuous. And defiant. And 3 1/2 years old. This mostly means that he occasionally has Hulk-level rage-outs and is not only incapable of explaining the source of his anger, he's incapable of pinpointing the source of his anger. He's just angry. Or sad. Or tired. Or whateverthehellitisthatthisfeelingiscalledgoodGodDaddyWHYDON'TYOUSTOPIT?!?!?!?!?

Being three is really tough. And I know that. So, it's okay that occasionally he just falls out in the floor and needs to be in a room alone for 15 or 20 minutes before he can contain himself long enough to chitchat again. It's okay that he occasionally hits (though he knows he's not supposed to). It's even okay that sometimes he breaks stuff. Because when we've pulled ourselves back together, we face the person we hurt or disrespected, say "I'm sorry" and mean it. Then we really try as hard as we can to do better the next time.

And that's the number one thing I'm trying to teach myself right now. Sorry is just as much (maybe more) for parents as it is for kids. Parents need to help ready their kids for a world full of imperfect leaders by teaching them that even mom's and dad's get stuff wrong. Which is okay. As long as we acknowledge and apologize when we find our error.

Sorry is the most human and the most heavenly thing we do. For ourselves, for others, for God. We fail, we fix, we fail again. It's the only way yet we've figured out how to get better.