Love is Simple: "I Love How You Love Me" by Jeff Mangum (Phil Spector Cover)

This is the latest in an ongoing series exploring love songs and the themes behind them. Check out the rest here.

Love is Simple

Here are the lyrics for Phil Spector's "I Love How You Love Me"

I love how your eyes close
Whenever you kiss me
And when I'm away from you
I love how you miss me
I love the way your kiss is always heavenly
But darling most of all
I love how you love me

I love how your heart beats
Whenever I hold you
I love how you think of me
Without being told to
I love the way your touch is always tenderly
But darling most of all
I love how you love me

I love how your eyes close
Each time that you kiss me
And when I'm away from you
I love how you miss me
I love the way your kiss is always heavenly
But darling most of all
I love how you love me

And it really is just that simple. Ever find yourself wondering why your significant other cares so much about you? It's a million things, multiplied and strengthened by the time you've spent together, but in the end it comes down to "I love how you love me".

We all want to be loved. It's the human condition. We need the affirmation, security and comfort of being with someone that accepts us on good hair days and bad, with morning breathe or in our Sunday best, when we're bloated and when we sparkle (maybe you guys, I don't sparkle). We want to give someone else that same sense of belonging, that same veil of acceptance. We're all just waiting for the person worthy of giving it to, and who better to share that with, than someone who gives you those things.

This is difference (fundamentally) with our love for each other and God's love for us (or our love for our children to a lesser degree). Our romantic love, as deep and abiding as it may be, is a contingent love. We may go on loving someone long after they stop loving us, but the moment the love is no longer reciprocal, it becomes lessened. It's not a choice we make, it's the nature of romantic love itself. It's one of the things that make it so magical to begin with. You can't really love someone alone. You have to "love and be loved in return" to quote "The Nature Boy". That's the greatest thing, you'll ever learn, and the man wasn't lying about it.

Key Lesson: Eyes and ears and lips and legs. All those may be points of focus for love, but the reason for the love is the return of the feelings. The connection between two people supersedes everything else.