Yesterday, I quoted a Kris Kristopherson song, "Sometimes it's nice to have somebody nice to be close to."
It is nice. It's also not how a lot of us live. Love is a bitch a lot of times. My general philosophy is that you just have to give it back. As Shakespeare wrote through Mercutio, "If love be rough with you, be rough with love; prick love for pricking and you beat love down."
It's not always this way. It's not supposed to be this way, and it doesn't have to be this way. There are couples that are happy and contented with one another, who don't hurt one another and tear each other down. Everyone can find that eventually. Everyone deserves to.
The video embedded in this post is for Eminem's latest hit. It's got strong language, stronger subject matter and it probably will offend someone. Sorry. It's also beautiful and tells a story that doesn't get told enough. Sometimes two people and their feelings for each other are more destructive than any outside forces could be.
I've never been in a physically abusive relationship. I've never had a woman make me want to burn down the house, or wake me up with a sucker punch. You probably haven't either. But I have been in abusive relationships. Relationships where we overlook and dismiss each other, talk down to or belittle one another. I bet you've been in those too.
Don't stay, not without change. Fix your problems and incompatibilities with counseling and hard work, or remove yourself before the abuse (from you and to you) escalates.
This is not some sad cry for attention or help. I'm not drowning in a sea of despair and abuse. This is just an awesome song and an awesome video that I wanted to share this morning, but I wanted to share it with context.