We're all in this alone. - Lily TomlinMan, Lily nails it right on the head doesn't she?
Most of our family and close friends know this, but I thought it would be a good idea to make it official, and let our friends online know where we are and what's going on.
In late January, Ella and I officially separated. She moved in with her parents in Bossier with the boys while I finished work in New Orleans.
We both decided that Ruston, Louisiana is where we wanted to be for the immediate future and so we began to take steps to make that happen. I found an apartment and took a job in advertising the first of March. Ella is still looking for work and a place to live here in Ruston (hint, hint, if anyone knows anything, clue us in).
This past week, we decided to begin the process of filing for divorce. We still care about each other a great deal and are working hard on helping each other and sharing the load, and the joys of raising two small boys, but we are parting ways as man and wife.
The most important thing for our friends to know is that we are okay. While of course, this is tremendously difficult for both of us and our extended families, it is, we believe, in our best interests long-term. We appreciate everyone that has offered support, condolences, shoulders, cold beers, spare bedrooms, tanks of gas etc. etc. We couldn't make it a day without our friends and each and every one of you are important and appreciated.
It's never easy saying goodbye to someone so important in your life. Ella and I are trying to think of it, not as saying goodbye, but shifting gears. There are things we do very well together and those things will continue.
Again, thanks to everyone for your help, love and support.
For those that are shaken up or disillusioned by this, listen to Sir George Harrison:
And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make.