Fatherhood so Far...

Most everyone that will read this website knows that Ella and I have only known we???re pregnant (that???s such a ridiculous euphemism. We are not pregnant. She is pregnant, and in a few weeks, We???ll have a baby. As much as I might like to pretend, I don???t get to share the burden with her right now) for a couple of months. Most people get to think about what their lives will be like once the baby comes for such a long time (not elephant gestation long, but still...a whole school year???s worth). We, here at Team Awesome, were on the fast track to parenthood.

In the days and weeks after discovering our impending bundle of joy, I spent a ridiculous amount of time reading. Parenting magazines, websites, ???What to Expect??? books, you name it, I was on it. I discovered a particularly great series which I???m still reading now entitled, ???Father Knows Best: The New Father Series??? by Armin Brott. While it???s a wonderful thing to get advice and information on how the mother is feeling, and what she goes through etc., I found that I wanted someone to talk about what I was going through. Sure, I wasn???t carrying around a basketball, and finding my clothes didn???t fit (scratch that last one, can you say ???sympathy weight???) but I was experiencing a million different emotions all for the first time, and it seemed like nobody was interested in (or even thought to ask about) what I was going through.

Let???s back up for a minute and declare unequivocally that this is not a pity party for Joel. I am in no way saying that the father has a worse (or even equivalent) experience as the mother. What I am saying is that the journey to fatherhood is one with it???s own particular problems, pitfalls, and priorities. Thankfully, there are a few Dad???s out there that have done this before (imagine that, people had babies before us) and one of them has written three books to fill in the gap that I mentioned.The New Father??? series breaks down into: ???The Expectant Father???, ???The New Father???, and ???Fathering Your Toddler???. Just like books for Mom such as ???What to Expect When You???re Expecting???, they follow a week by week/month by month explanation of what you???re feeling, what she???s feeling, and what???s happening to the baby. It also pinpoints milestones and outlines goals to have completed at different stages of the pregnancy. Everything is from the Dad???s perspective and for someone that wonders at times If he???s the only one having these questions and concerns, it???s a lifesaver. Awesome book, definitely pick them up for the next expectant father you know.

Other than my newfound ???bookworminess??? I???ve been busy on redesigning. Our house was pretty well set up for Ella and me (and our menagerie of animals) but once you throw baby into the mix, we were lacking. First we set up the nursery (obviously), then we reorganized (still are) our home office (now all Mac) and created a new spare bedroom (since baby took the old one). Once those projects were underway (or realistically as soon as our new Mac came in) I started work on this website. It may (probably will) see redesigns in the coming weeks and months, but this is the basic version of our new home on the ???net. I???m really excited about the possibilities this site holds. Pictures, videos etc, etc. It would be great even if Ella and I were just loafing around New Orleans ourselves, but with Baby on the way, we???re going to have plenty to talk about.

Upcoming topics: Babies, Broken DVD Players, Football and the Writer???s Strike. Stick around...